Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts

Thursday, March 15, 2018

Coworkers working with family and 5 cents

There are a lot of tight friendships at the restaurant then there are coworkers who work with family. Brothers, sisters, and cousins all around! I'm not sure how I'd feel working with family though. I'm the most patient person of my family and I rarely get angry about anything (except family but that's another story) so having to put up with family would be a challenge. One person, though, said it's pretty cool and they can give their sibling a hard time. I can understand that since I give people a hard time and they return the favor! Lately I've been joking about charging people 5 cents for each 'sorry' I hear...

We'll always bump into each other! Don't need to say, "Sorry" every time!
We always bump, touch, and squeeze each other and they always say they're sorry. 5 cents. Kitchen staff doesn't get tips so this is my sneaky way of getting a little extra... if they actually took me seriously.

Last weekend I decided to be social and go out with my coworkers to celebrate a birthday. I wasn't sure what to expect since I haven't been out partying for a long time and I don't drink alcohol (20 years!), and we ended up closing a very popular dance club! What a night! Wall to wall people dancing with some seriously awesome people! We talked about it the next day and the general manager mentioned it could be claustrophobic but I said my pantry position trained me for that ๐Ÿ˜„What prevented me from going out for the longest time was that I don't drink and I thought I'd be too old to hang out with these fine people. But now I realize:
I'm too young to worry about it and too old to care!
Enjoy life and enjoy being around people you love! Friendships can spawn whenever and anywhere, so take any opportunity to be around people who make you feel great.
I may have life experience but you have taught me a lot!

Another thing that's been on my mind is: we work to live only to live to work. Don't forget to live! We're brought down by finances and money truly does not buy happiness.
I forgot to live at some point
Working nights at a restaurant fits my personality pretty well being a night owl and all. I can imagine it can be rough with relationships for those who work nights versus those with 9-5 jobs. Weekends are nonexistent for us since we work through the weekends, while potential significant others would have those days off. Rarely any time together. How does that work? It can't be easy.

 Which comes to me thinking about how society views being in a relationship with a coworker. WHY NOT? Who would know you better than a coworker? Who else would know how you handle pressure? Especially at a restaurant? Sure, don't be too affectionate with each other, but the workplace is great for meeting people and there's a better chance of having schedules work out. Is it professional? No? But that's another test in the relationship. Restraint and professionalism. But what do i know? I'm single most of the time!

It's been a while since I posted a new blog entry but this lead from one idea to another, then the next thing you know I married the bread oven.

Monday, February 12, 2018

3 Days before V-Day

Valentine's Day is normally a day that just comes and goes for me since I'm single most of the time. Yet I get to cater to guests who will celebrate V-Day while I'm working. On the bright side, I'll be surrounded by gorgeous women at work as the pantry guy! Woot! This is not an occasion to rack up sexual harassment claims, since I value my job, so I tone down any interactions I may have. Although... some ladies haven't toned things down for me... *ahem* 'Nough said about that. Careful with that twerking though. Aimed twerking. Intentional butt bumps. I thought I said enough about that... But we don't have to behave while we're off the clock... Face turning red yet?

I work with a bunch of beautiful people of all sorts. Guys included, so says the straight guy. I find beauty in all sorts of people, some have a beautiful heart, some are physically attractive, some are shy and quiet, some are loud and extroverted, some are comfortable with their sexuality, but there's one commonality between most: self esteem of varying levels. A few people turned a 180 while I worked at this restaurant. One went from an anxious jumble of nerves to a confident and outgoing lady, one went from buried into her work into a strong woman, one went from courtesy smiles into one of the most beautiful smiles I've seen. There are some people (guys included) I hardly interact with, but when I start talking to them, they surprise me with their responses which makes me want to interact with them more! All people are beautiful when they're given a chance. I usually give guys a hard time and they return the favor. I may have changed the most. I'm more confident doing my job, I no longer panic during a rush, and I'm more open to helping people out when they need it.

All of these beautiful people have taught me some valuable lessons in life. These self-esteem issues I had do not matter to them. It's how I make them feel! That's all that matters. In return, they're more relaxed, they smile more, and they're appreciative, and they can get more flirty. *straightens back, chin up, strut around*

This is me with beautiful women around...
What I would like to see more is my coworkers outside of work. They don't have to worry about guests, getting orders together, dealing with a dinner rush, and not worrying about having a manager scrutinize their every move. I've seen my coworkers on social media. I'm envious!
Coworker hugs... how can you NOT love this?
The above picture was something I took tonight. I love these interactions! This was their second hug because I didn't have my phone out for the first. Aren't they gorgeous? I love my job. Well... the job could be better but I love my coworkers!

Maybe I'll make a special Valentine's Day post since we do have a couple of coworkers who are dating each other... if I don't make such a post then: Happy Valentine's Day!

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Me!

Saturday, February 10, 2018

Interpersonal relations at a restaurant

If you work at a restaurant you tend to overhear many things. A lot of people will hum, whistle, grunt, groan, and complain about the guests. I'm sure people want to hear about the gossip though. I don't pay attention to that.

I know I mentioned on my Facebook page that I wouldn't mention anything I overhear... but here we go.

Where to start? I have sensitive hearing that's great for critical listening, which is useful for audio engineering. Well... I think the kitchen staff expects someone to end up with someone else. I don't know who they refer to. I sometimes hear people talking about me though.
"Doesn't he ever stop working?"
"He watches out for us."
When it got really busy, at one point one of the managers turned to another and said, "If it was anyone else..." then shook his head. I took that to mean I didn't fold under pressure.
That's the positive side for me.


It's been a while since I heard negative talk. Before I got a handle on anxiety (job performance, workflow, being overwhelmed) I would shake more than usual (familial tremors runs in my family). At that moment I'd hear something like, "Is there something wrong with him?" I'm sure there's more gossip behind my back, I'm not immune to it. Gossip is acceptable in society, but I vowed not to buy anything society sells anymore. Shit happens and it's part of life. I overhear gossip involving other people too.

The people I work with have some really tight friendships. Often they will go out together, drink, and sometimes they'll work with hangovers. It's been about 20 years since I had any alcohol so I'm not invited to any reindeer games. Anyway, sometimes they'll grab a friend and go somewhere private to discuss something. There was a big event to help out one of our managers around the time some private conversations were had. Many people I work with are a very caring crew.


Sometimes my coworkers will come to check up on me, when I'm working one of the lonelier positions at the restaurant (pantry is far from being lonely! but one position is really isolated from everyone else). This is the position where you bring your own music, and portion away necessary ingredients for the line cooks. I heard, one time, of one person telling everyone else what I said! I had to laugh because I assume it was something I wasn't supposed to overhear. It might be a little disturbing to know I hear better than a lot of people.


I'm not part of any social circle at the restaurant, but there are a few people I hold dear. These are the people who make absolutely sure they stay on my good side (very few people on my bad side but I don't make a big deal out of it... you're not immune to my joking and friendliness... could I be two-faced? Probably but this is a work environment and morale needs to stay up!) These are my work friends who make the job enjoyable! They take the time to make sure they know they appreciate me, and in return they have my gratitude.


Even though I'm currently single, dating a coworker gets a bad reputation in society. Who better to date than someone you know? How they handle stress? You can't really get that from a dating app. Coworkers will flirt. People will talk sex (the things I overhear could make your toes curl!) Dating coworkers will kiss. It's part of life.


I like teasing and joking around with people. One of my dearest coworkers was C.O. or D.C.O. (person who assigns jobs to other people... basically) one night and I asked, "Should you get a whip?" She replied, "I already have one!" ๐Ÿ™‰I joked about that another night while the kitchen manager walked by but he heard enough... The things you walk in on!


Coworker walks by tapping a knife against a loaf of bread... Me, "Bread isn't percussion!" Another coworker walks by, "Drum roll!"

Well... this post was a little more personal than I intended. So?

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